In brief
In July 2023, the facilitators and conveners of 35 networks and coalitions gathered in Coventry to explore what we can achieve together, in pursuit of a more relationship-centred world, that we can’t achieve alone. Here, we share some of the many themes that emerged.
We will continue to explore all these questions and more in an online event in October. We’d love to have you there to continue the conversation about how networks can build better relationships now for a relationship-centred future. As it’s an online event, space is unlimited. Please spread the word and invite others from your network, or your network of networks.
The room was full to bursting with many different concerns and issues – grassroots community networks like Camerados and the Local Area Coordination Network, national coalitions like Belong and Better Way, networks of lived experience leaders like Sound Delivery and networks who bridge academia and the wider world like Exeter’s Green Futures Network or the Sussex Centre for Research on Kindness. In our midst there were many different theories of change – some of us pursuing culture change, others policy shifts, others community organising or power shifts, others behaviour change, and many more.
Amongst this variety, 2 things bound us together:
1. First the belief that big transformational change won’t come from a single organisation or intervention, but through strong, connected networks which intersect within and beyond themselves.
2.Second, a curiosity about and belief in the potential of a world in which relationships are the first mile, not just the extra one, in society, communities and (of course!) our networks and coalitions.
We explored these shared interests through a fairly unstructured agenda with lots of open space, breakout groups and free discussion. The whole thing was a huge team effort and we’re grateful to everyone for bringing their skills and experiences to the facilitation. Our time together was often messy and always interesting and inspiring (to us at least!), and captured below are some of the many themes that emerged from our time together.
On ‘the net’ and ‘the work’
Networks have both ‘a net’ – a set of relationships and the mechanics through which we connect, communicate and collaborate – and ‘the work’ – a set of aims and objectives
In the words of one participant “we can get too hung up on ‘the work’ and in doing so we don’t pay enough attention to ‘the net’”. Relationships are the work when it comes to network building. After all, “the process you use to get the future determines the future you get”.
On the enduring soul of a network
Weaving across the net and the work is the soul of the network: the vision, the mission, the heart that binds members together and shapes the work that we do. The soul of a network isn’t only for the here and now. It comes from our history as a network, it shifts and changes over time, and it will endure in the people and relationships involved with a network, whether or not the network itself remains. As network builders and conveners, we need to be alive to this.
Tradition is the passing on of the fire, not the worship of the ashes
On the shifting context of networks
We started our time together by attempting to find some shared language about the tough, beautiful, often confusing work of each others’ networks. We found common ground in the fact that there are always different narratives and accounts within and beyond a network about what a network is for, who it’s serving and what its purpose is. And we found solidarity in the challenge of trying to truly understand our networks.
We all identified ways in which our networks are constantly changing and morphing. At one moment it can seem clear that the network is finding meaning in the relationships and solidarity between members, and at another moment it is clear there are members who are hankering for more collective and concerted action. On the one hand a funder can be funding either one of these purposes, whilst its members are there for a different or adjacent purpose.
On strategic enablers
But if the context is shifting continuously, the “strategic enablers” are constant and consistent across different issues. This means that we can learn from experience and, especially, learn from one another. These strategic enablers facilitators have at their disposal include the quality of leadership, the provision of training, the provision of peer support support spaces and the use of co production techniques.
On ceding control
We only realise the real value of networks when we understand that we don’t need to know everyone or to control everything. Being clear about the essentials – the shared values and principles that hold us together – and then trusting one another is what makes a thriving network, rather than a soulless institution.
On holding the end in mind
Networks don’t have to last forever, in fact in many cases they probably shouldn’t. They are agents of change, and agents of change are always on the move, adapting to a changing world. We need to have purpose and direction whilst leaving space for emergence and holding no preset ambitions for immortality. Just as this is true for organisations, so too is it true for individual relationships. Sudden, unplanned endings are usually unhelpful but well managed change is healthy and natural.
On representation
Many attendees were used to being accompanied to events like this by at least 1 member of their network. This is as much about distributing leadership within a network, as much as ensuring authenticity and integrity in the representation of a network. And yet it was acknowledged that facilitators can benefit from occasional moments to reflect and build on their own practice and that surely only helps them in their leadership more broadly.
On our shared challenges and opportunities in pursuit of a relationship-centred future
For those of you who have been part of The Relationships Projects work over the past 4 years these will probably come as no surprise.
- How can we find ways to measure the impact of relationship-centred work within and beyond our networks in ways that are meaningful to us and our network, as much as to the people who might fund or enable our work?
- How can we marry the work of the networks and efforts of those who are doing the important work of leveraging immediate policy or political change at scale, with those who are engaged in the crucial work at the grassroots and in the more emergent spaces?
- What are the ways in which we can build networks that are open and inclusive? Network participation often requires people to find spare time in a week or a month to engage, and this inevitably leads to weakened diversity or representation at particular events or in the network overall. This dynamic can also create a self-perpetuating bias – a network’s members multiply to mirror the people and perspectives involved from the beginning. How can we design and organise our networks differently, better and more inclusively?
- How can we marry the need for short term tactics to influence relational practice and narratives now in ways aligned to immediate political opportunities as an example, with the need to build longer term, more emergent and more sustained approaches to building the narratives and practice needed in the long run?
Continuing the conversation
We will continue to explore all these questions and more in an online event in October. We’d love to have you there to continue the conversation about how networks can build better relationships now for a relationship-centred future. As it’s an online event, space is unlimited. Please spread the word and invite others from your network, or your network of networks.
The sorts of questions we’ll be asking include:
- Does a network need to be relational to be effective? Most networks have elements of transaction and elements of relationality. Different people access different elements of the network.
- How do networks become self-sustaining? How can the convenor exit?
- What makes some networks need a centre, an infrastructure, and others not?
- How do we maintain good relationships with our members as the network grows? How do we support members to get to know one another?
Active Neighbours – Nick
“I saw that there was an NHS Responder app. I saw that, and […] I just wanted to get involved and kind of help out and do what I could – because I saw the NHS and all the lengths that everyone was going to […] And I saw quite a few community efforts on Facebook and I thought it was something I could do to help out with.”
Active Neighbours – Marie
“Volunteering shouldn’t have parameters wrapped around it – you shouldn’t have to do x, y, z to be a volunteer.”
Active Neighbours – Khan
“With all the restrictions in place, there was a lot of questions about how much I could do or how much was normal to do. I didn’t want to put too much stress on myself but I wanted to help out as much as I could. I was brought up in a household where I was expected to do all the housework, the DIY, preparing meals. That was considered normal for me but with some individuals, depending on what their household is like, what is normal is different; I wanted to do more and more but I didn’t want to ask and they didn’t ask.”
Active Neighbours – Kate
“I just think it’s really nice we can each all be each other’s solutions – people are volunteering not because they feel obligated because they’re family -they just want to help you. I always think that’s really powerful. If everyone put in just a few hours a week to help in their community, we can change so much. And I think that’s what we’ve seen during Covid.”
Active Neighbours – Julie
“The satisfaction you get from volunteering is really fulfilling. You get home and know you’ve helped someone that day. It enabled me to meet new people – other volunteers, those we helped. Having the opportunity to talk to some elderly people in the community. When you’re not from somewhere, when would you ever have the opportunity to talk to someone from a different generation?”
Active Neighbours – Josie
“[Covid] was an almighty stop. There are so many people that are natural doers – volunteering and helping others was possibly the only thing they could do. A lot of people potentially thought that was their only option to continue to do something. Covid gave everyone the opportunity to step slightly out of their comfort zone. Everyone needs that door to be slightly open to be able to step through [….] I just have to say that the food bank needs peanut butter, 12 hours later there will be 56 jars on my porch”
Active Neighbours – Jen
“I’m a big believer in gratitude and what you give out is what you get back, and the law of attraction. So I’m that kind of person: what you give out is what you get back. So just being a nice person, and just trying to help and be generous with your time … if you can. Anything you can do to help somebody.”
Active Neighbours – James
“Not patriotism, but I think society is under stress at the moment. I don’t think the government, whatever your view on this particular government, is necessarily capable of meeting all needs. So it’s quite nice to have a purpose to do stuff when you can see an overwhelming need for it. So yes, a massive sense of fulfilment. And I think as I’d alluded to before that when I’d retired I felt I needed something to do. But it’s been great because I’ve met more people in the neighbourhood, working in the kitchen I’ve met some great people – learned much more about food! So generally I’ve enjoyed both experiences a lot.”
Active Neighbours – Isabel
“I think what was really cool at the beginning was it felt like you had this whole potential to really rethink how you interacted with your local area. There was a real sense of possibility that you were really kind of mini-world making or something […] I think politically a lot of people really frown down on traditional charity models – particularly the bifurcation of service users and service providers, and felt like what was needed was something that really lifted people up in the community, and made everyone feel like they were valued and had something to contribute […] which is still a noble goal – but I think it’s hard to do in practice.”
Active Neighbours – Brianne
“So it’s just the connections that have been made, the nice people and the people who have really needed the help that I’ve met. And just seeing everyone come together. I’ve always thought this area has a great sense of community, but this has shown it even more. And it’s shown the people that don’t normally have the time to give to this community – they’ve gone ‘here you go’.”